Heartbreak is an overwhelming mental anguish or grief, especially that caused by loss or disappointment in a relationship. Heartbreak is usually energy sapping and it requires a lot of time and effort to overcome it. This is one of the reason why you must be careful and choosy of the person you commit your heart to, because heartbreak is as real as love (perhaps realer than love). And the deeper the depth of your love, the deeper the depth of your pain and sorrow after breakup.
It is also a fact that a breakup from a sexual relationship is more painful especially for female than the one that doesn’t involved sex before breakup. This is one of the reasons why premarital sex shouldn’t be a priority in a relationship, because it will hurt you more if there is a breakup.
If you know your heart is not strong enough to absorb or withstand shock from heartbreak, please, avoid unnecessary relationships. Because heartbreak is real and emotional trauma don’t heal as fast as physical trauma. So stop causing unnecessary scars in your mind.
The trauma might eventually heal, but the scar will always remain with you, and some scar always rekindle and bring back bad memories.
I usually say that it is not a must to be in a relationship especially if you know that you are not ready for marriage.
Sometimes ago, I met a young lady of about 20 years of age. At 20, she was already battered and shattered by failed relationships and was almost giving up on love!
I strongly believe that this is an avoidable heartbreak if she had gotten the right orientation.
HOW TO HANDLE HEARTBREAK
• It is on record that both male and female cope well with breakups, although guys tend to cope faster. So keep this at the back of your mind that you’re strong. Nobody is too weak to pull out of any heartbreak, no matter the depth of the pain.
Only cowards chooses the hardest and most difficult way to deal with heartbreak (suicide).
• If you need to cry, because tears help to relief some pains, make sure you cry, but never cry over an issue twice.
Some break ups can be a blessing in disguise, it could be that God already foresaw what would have befallen you if you had married that person and in the best of his knowledge, spur the person to cause the breakup.
A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
• Sit back and take stock of what led to the breakup. If you’re faulty, correct your fault before moving on, if not you might suffer the same fate again, because the solution to a leaking pot is to plug it, not to transfer it to another place.
There must always be a moving on after a broken relationship, so don’t allow a break up tie you down perpetually without making progress.
• Don’t lose your mind after a breakup, it is an unnecessary damage. If you lose your mind, because of someone who doesn’t love you, where will you now get the mind to give to the person that will later love you?
Know this for sure, for every No or “turn down” you get, there are better Yes or “turn up” awaiting you. Just relax, heal, mend, and move on. Instead of regressing into a state of melancholy or depression and unnecessary hatred for opposite sex because of what hurt you.
• Be willing to forgive and let go. Don’t hold grudges against him/her, everything happens for a reason.
The more you free your mind and let go, the more space you have to concentrate on other important things.
Offense against him/her will be a fence between you and God. So deliberately refuse to fall into the trap of building a fence between you and God. Although, what happened is painful, but still find a place in your heart to forgive and stop hurting.
• Delete or block all access to the person, for the time being, including the pictures. Because out of sight is out of mind.
Deliberately refuse to think about him/her, even when your thought flashes on him/her. There is a tendency he/she might come pleading for a come back, but you need to decide to live your life without him/her. Remember, you were doing well before you met him/her and you can still do better after he/she had left.
• Spend more time on your hobbies, or develop new hobbies.
Stay in the mist of those that makes you happy. Those who loves and appreciate you.
Avoid being in isolation. Loneliness will make recovery difficult, because you will keep thinking on the person, thereby making the pain deeper. Talk aloud and laugh with friends.
• Don’t rush the healing process. Time is the best healer. Note that: there is no time frame for the healing therapy. People heal at different times, so heal by your own time. Rushing the healing process might lead to frustration.
• After healing, depending on your own timing… Then move on. Because if you don’t heal from what hurt you you will end up bleeding on those who didn’t cut you.
In moving on, make sure you don’t become a prisoner of your past, thereby stressing and bleeding on everyone who later comes your way. You must avoid transfer of emotions. If you know you can do that, please don’t start another relationship, because you’re going to make it a hell for the other person.
• But if you know you’re not really ready for marriage, no need of starting a relationship, because heartbreak is real and it sap emotional energy, don’t subject yourself to unnecessary heartbreaks, because some are really avoidable.
In conclusion, after a breakup, take stock, amend, makeup then move on.
Cheers.
Scripted By: Collins Joe
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