I know we have some teens here. Parents, you can also share with your teens!
Adolescence as we know is characterised by physical, psychological and social change and maturation. A period when the society sends mixed up signals to its youngsters, resulting in confusion, frustration, despair and risk taking behavior. These experiences can be very traumatic and often lead to participation in huge risky sexual behaviors.
It is understandable that adolescent is a stage of stress and storm, a period of opportunities and challenges, a period to make or mar your destiny.
It is the most critical period of our existence as humans, because that is when we are liable to make more mistakes in our choices and decisions and some of the mistakes haunts later in life.
Let me tell you this, most adults that you see as mediocre today made the terrible decisions during their adolescent stage. Your decision during this period can either make you a glorious future or mar your glorious destiny.
I beg of you, never learn by by imitating your peers, neither should you learn by experience, because experience teaches bad and bitter lessons. You can rarely revert a bad experience and even if you do, the scar will continue to live with you.
It pains my heart whenever I interact with teenagers and see or hear them making some avoidable mistakes. For crying out loud, what has a teen got to do with dating? it pains my heart when I hear teenagers saying that they are in or have been in a long term relationship, I then began to ask myself is a teenager supposed to even be in a relationship talk more of a long one?
I have had opportunities to interact with different teenagers, having similar problems. I could remember a 20years old who was shattered and almost depressed as a result of of disappointments in a failed relationship, a 19yrs old with flings of sexual encounters and so on…
All these are abnormal and ought not to be experienced by teenagers.
May I tell you this that emotional trauma is real, and it doesn’t heal as fast as physical trauma, and it doesn’t know whether you’re a teen, so why put yourself through this quagmire?
As teenagers, here are what you need:
- Purpose Not Partner:
Your adolescent stage is the time to discover your purpose of existence, spend time to ask your creator what he created you to achieve.
Solomon said remember your creator in the days of your youth, this is the time to do that, not for searching for partner.
Spend all your energy to seek and pursue your purpose, because if you miss your purpose in life, you have missed everything including your God given partner. Your life will be shattered, shambled and scattered if you dare miss your purpose of existence. So I enjoin you to seek that which is valuable and helpful to you.
Be purposeful like Daniel that you won’t defile yourself with what might seems to be the vogue in the society.
May I tell you that the world do give way to those with purpose and knows where they are going. The quality of your future depends on the decision you make today. - Career Not Caress:
Teenage period is the time to make a choice of career and acquire the necessary skills to make you a successful professional in your chosen career. Burn the night candle on your studies not a dinner night candle with a date.
What you need as a teenager is a career Not caress, cuddle, snuggle or smooches. Doing all these as a teen is a total misplaced of priority and it may lead to grievous mistakes. It is common to see adolescent allowing their bodies to be touched and defiled through all these and some still claimed to be virgins just because they have not been penetrated. May I tell you that every time you cuddle, snuggle, smooch and caress, you are defiling your body which is the temple of God. - Pen Not Penis:
What you need as a teenager is a pen, not penis. Develop your pen to be valiant and ready writer, write articles for publication and posterity, put your ideas and thoughts into writing. Manipulate and have mastery of your pen not your penis.
Adolescent is not the time to develop your sexual skills, it is not the time to put your penis into full use other than for urinating, neither is it the time to learn how to manipulate other men’s penises for the girls. Doing this will mean robbing yourself of a glorious future. - Common Sense Not Casual Sex:
Adolescent is the time to learn wisdom and build your common sense initiative. Let me share a story on this. A story was told of a king who gave a he goat to all his subjects and asked them to come with a kid the following year. There was this wise man who took his own home, made sure that nothing happened to it. Others in the community went to get a she goat so as to get a kid for the king.
On the day they were to present the kid to the king, they all came with the kid they had gotten, this wise man gave the goat to his son to give the king and he stayed back home. When it got to his turn to present the kid, the king asked him of his father’s kid, he said his father is in labor room, the king asked him, how can you say that your father is in labor room? Have you seen where a man gave birth before? The boy now told the king that since the king knew that men don’t give birth, why did he gave his father a he goat and expected him to come with a kid? I’m sure you got the common sense in what the boy said? The king ought to have given them a she got so as to expect a kid.
It is this kind of common sense to solve problems that is expected of teenagers not casual sex. These days, we have many teenagers with little common sense but vast casual sex experiences.
It is on record that teenagers are the most vulnerable of having risky casual sex, little wonder, the rate of teenage pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases and HIV is high among teenagers. Time will fail me to share stories of teenagers who contacted HIV through casual sex. But know this that an estimate of 11.8 million young people aged between 15 and 24 are living with HIV/AIDS. Please don’t jeopardize your life because of casual sex. - Mentor Not Massage:
What you need is a mentor who is wise and trusted enough to lead you through the stress and storms associated with this critical stage of your life. Not someone to give you body massage that will destroy and devour your destiny in the name of love.
To the adults, may I tell you that every teenager needs a teacher to teach and guide them and not to take advantage of their naive stage. It is normal for a teenager to crush on you as an adult due to their biological and psychosexual makeup, the onus lies on you as a responsible adult to teach them how to direct and channel their feelings appropriately and not to take advantage and molest them. Believe you me, you’d be appreciated and held in high esteem in the future, when he/she grows up to know the importance of what you have done.
To the teenagers who have already made these avoidable mistakes, may I tell you that it is not too late to make amends. Turn a new leaf today, by going to your creator in repentance, ask him to forgive your past mistakes and give a new direction to your life. Then passionately pursue your purpose in life.
Scripted By: Collins Joe
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